I
love to have arguments with my own mind. The heart & mind are two things
that often have conflicts. Whenever I ponder over something, I make sure that
every side was justified before coming to a conclusion. Sometimes, I become so
tired of arguing with myself (especially at night) that I finally stop to sleep
but when I wake up the argument will resume.
Just
recently, while reading the comments in some of the Google+ posts on my wall, a
thought occurred to me. People are so vain that sometimes it comes to the point
that we spend more on vanity that on necessity. Some people are so fed up with
“tips on how to be accepted by society” even though the real answers just lie
inside themselves. You have to wear this kind of make-up, wear this type of
clothing, eat this kind of food, speak this language, do this type of
activities, wear this scent, do that, be this, buy that, etc. The list never
ends.
On
the other hand, if you do these things that the “experts” claimed that will
make you “better”, then you’ll definitely become better in the eyes of the
others that are doing that just like that. It’s like a butterfly. A caterpillar
undergoes metamorphosis to be a beautiful creature and although it doesn’t
resemble its old self anymore, it was still a caterpillar. I’ve seen many
changes that turned out great. Maybe because you really have to change in order
to improve. But drastic change isn’t always good. You may lost what you truly
treasure in the process and though the results may be greater than what you’ve
lost, it doesn’t work all the time. Sometimes, it doesn’t turn out to be good.
Because not all that glitters are gold.
It’s
like wearing our IDs: yes it’s your own identification but if you’re not
wearing the same logo on your ID or not wearing it the same way it has to be
wear, then you cannot be admitted unless you change and be like everybody else.
And sometimes it’s true that when you do these “tips”, you really become
better. But that depends. If you’re comfortable wearing your artificial self
than your natural self, then you’re good.
There
are just so many labels we have to wear just to be “in”. And I must admit I was
once a victim of vanity that in the end, I stopped because I realized that I
was becoming who I am not. I don’t want to live in the way others want me to
live. I am the ruler of my own life. I don’t care what these celebs do to look
gorgeous; I am completely contented with the way I look! And that’s when I
started to stopped wearing the clothes that everybody else wears, stopped
putting much make-up just to look like
this celeb, and start to live the way I want to live, comfortably. I sleep well
at night. I don’t give a damn what the boys think when I wear jeans &
snickers. I don’t go to salon now. I eat whatever I want to eat. I wear my
favorite perfume, and sometimes I go without it. I am a cast-away and I don’t
care.
Be
yourself. You don’t need to change the way you look, act, or speak just to be
seen. You don’t need to try hard just to be accepted. Just do what you do in
the best way that you can. And I do believe that change is a constant thing, I
just don’t believe that all changes are good. Sometimes you have to remain
yourself because that’s how you will truly understand your own. You have to
remain even just a bit of what you are now so that you’ll not end up having
identity crisis (the same thing that we called “finding ourselves” though it’s
just lying beneath our labels) later. Things may come & go. Things may
change, but remember that you only live once and you have endless possibilities
ahead of you. You can do everything, but don’t let yourself go beyond your
grasp. Just don’t get lost.
